It's normal in every relationship to get jealous from time to time. Well, let's admit we find it so cute sometimes when our Daddies or littles gets jelly and protective. I think I get more jelly than my Daddy most of the time because he's sooo good at controlling his jealousy especially if he's sharing me online with other guys. Me, uhmm I'm trying my best >:D.
I still get jealous but I think I'm better at it now than before and here are helpful tips my Daddy and I thinking or we did to deal with jealousy:
#1 Tell your little/Daddy that you're jealous - I know this is hard to do because we're already clouded with jealousy and all we could do is to be cold or be bratty. Communication is really the key and by letting them know you're bothered with something or someone it could be solved. Don't be afraid to tell them.
#2 Respond calmly - Okay so your little/Daddy told he/she is jealous.. What's next? Of course you should be calm and ask why it's making him/her jealous? Don't get angry that he/she got jealous. Of course he/she is concerned, loves you, could be insecure too. It is important how you respond or else he/she won't open up to you next time.
#3 Assure him/her - there are really littles who have issues and insecurities mostly, also Daddies. Doesn't mean that they're Daddies they don't need assurance too. It's nice to hear words of assurance if possible everyday or from time to time. My Daddy knows I overthink a lot and it rarely happens now because he always assures me.
#4 Know what are your roots of jealousy - the first tips can only help but targeting the real problem could solve it. Ask yourself why do you get jealous? Or does your Daddy/little give you a feeling that you should be jealous with someone? It could be about yourself and also your partner. Even if you're confident enough and you trust him/her fully but, if he/she's doing things that could make you really jealous it will really tear your confidence and trust.
#5 Stop overthinking - it is hard not to do this especially if you're far away from each other but overthinking won't help and you'll just stress yourself. For example when they answered differently than usual or takes time to answer think of like.. He/she's probably busy at work, doing house chores or not his/her best day. Try to think positive when you notice you starting to think negative.
#6 Let them know/feel that you trust them - it feels really good when you know/feel that your little/Daddy trusts you. Stop throwing doubts but instead tell them you trust them and you know they can't do that.
Always remember that be open to your Daddy/little. My Daddy and I are always proud on how open we are and we always say and believe that "Every little and Daddy feeling matters." Show this to your Daddy/littles too! It will work more if you're both trying!
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