Task Ideas for Beginners (LDR)

Hewwo kitties! ~ As you know I'm in a LDR with my Daddy and I know it's quite tricky to do DDLG or BDSM when you're not together. This could be a problem for first timers if you don't have any ideas or running out of task ideas to give to your littles but don't worry I got your backs!  I think these tasks will suite for littles and slaves. I will share what my Daddy gives me that I'm sure will help you too! 

1. Journal task - I write down my thoughts for the whole week. I do this weekly and you can choose to write it down on your notebook or type in your phone. For me, I type it then share to google drive because it's pretty long. It's also a nice feeling to express what's on your mind. This will be great to have an overview on what happened and also to let your Dom know your thoughts that I'm sure will help your relationship develop!

2. Orgasm Journal - I do this task whenever I cum. I write down in my notebook what are my likes and dislikes on our play and also what happened on our play. My Daddy reads it so he would know what to improve and what I like for better next plays. Doms will find this really helpful. 

3. Naughty Table - This is also included in my task where I need to track and record when and how much do I cum, edge, use my mouth and ass. Think this will be great too so you can see if you're having too much playtime or not. 

4. Submissive Poses - I practice different submissive poses every week. You can find a lot of submissive poses online and we use this also in our playtime. It helps me to get in my submissive mind. The poses have names so when my Daddy asked for a certain pose, I already knew what to do. This will be great to train submissives! 

5. Picture Session - I think this is my most favorite task to do. My Daddy sometimes chose pictures that I will imitate also, I can add what poses I want to do. Usually we do 10-15 pictures. He also chooses what I will wear and more details like if I would wear make up, hair, socks and such. 

6. Sucking video/picture - I do this depends if my Daddy will put it on tasks but it's usually to practice my sucking skills. Doms for sure will like to see how good their subs could suck. It can be done maybe once a week. The length of the vid and also what you wear can be decided by your Dom. 

7. Fucking ass - This is for anal lovers! I do this task once a week and it also to practice my ass for him. I just take pictures or sometimes video for him. 

8. No panties day! - We set a day where I won't wear panties for a day outside or inside of home! It's really a naughty and daring task and it gets comfy when it gets longer! 

9. Writing down things I want to do/to improve - I only get this task from time to time. My Daddy gives me a chance to voice out what I want to do with him even though it's naughty or not just everything. This will also give an idea to Dom what to do next. This gives the sub to think and to analyze their thoughts about themselves and wants. 

10. Edging task - Edging task is one of my favorite tasks too! This helps me to control my orgasms. I need to do edging at least three times a week even alone or with the help of my Daddy. My Daddy also helps me edge whenever we play and he'll just edge me and make me cum later or after a few days. 

That's that! I didn't not include the common tasks like eating, sleeping on time, greeting daddy, showing outfits etc. I think those are basic tasks. It is really  challenging when LDR because you always have to find new ways to explore things. It is somehow limited because not together but we should not let that stop us to do what we want. Hope you find this helpful. We can survive LDR!

30 Days of Submission | Day 8

Like I've said in my previous question, I expected and accepted punishments in dynamics. I know punishments vary in different relationships. It depends what the dom and sub agreed to. Punishments do not have to be always corporal because there are kinds of punishments too. But yes, spanking and any corporal punishment are part of my submission. The little pain kinda excites me when my Daddy gives me spanking punishments. He is really balanced when giving me punishments. He doesn't always give me spanking/corporal punishments whenever I break his rules or tasks. He also disciplines me by writing lines, or sometimes not allowed to touch myself or cum. Punishments that I will get will also depend on how bad I did. If it's too heavy then harder punishments and when not much bad just lighter punishments. But when I do get spankings, I feel more submissive because it is a mix of pain and pleasure. I know Daddy will like to give me spanking me as well when we meet one day.

30 Days of Submission | Day 7

Discipline and punishments are part of the dynamic or bondage. I think that is really the concept of the dynamics, to follow the rules and expect punishments if you break rules. So yes, I really do expect and accept any disciplines or punishments. I cannot imagine how the bondage will work without any punishments or expect disciplines. 

What I feel about punishments is that I dislike it. Punishments are supposed to be disliked by sub. I know my Daddy rarely punishes me and even reminds me sometimes about my tasks. When Daddy sets up a new task he gives me enough time to adjust before he becomes strict. I know he doesn't like giving me much punishment but when I really become a bad girl he's really giving hard punishments that will make me learn. Just receiving a chat from my Daddy in the morning, I start to get nervous because I know that I become a disobedient sub and I liked that feeling. It means that he scares me in a good way. 

Allowing my Dom to let me get punished is part of my submission. I gave him the allowance to discipline and punish me the day I submitted to him because I trusted him that he will take care of me, make me obey his rules and make me a responsible sub.

30 Days of Submission | Day 6

I feel the roots of my submission are from the people around me, influence of social media and also my preference. I think it really has something to do with my childhood but not entirely. My father passed away when i was at a young age, and I think that caused me to find someone who is like a father figure that I missed during those days who would guide and discipline me.  I know I still got the discipline from my mother but father and mother figure are far from each other. I think that's what they call momma's boy and Daddy's girl. I do not necessarily know if that's one of the reasons but social media really influenced me a lot. I know you cannot learn everything from the internet but I exposed myself too in Sub/Dom relationships and more kinks that is why it really influenced my way of thinking and also how would I act. 

For me, submission is not just about sexual thrill. I feel being submissive is already in me that someone or even myself can't remove it to my system. I know that I can be submissive inside our outside of the bedroom. My Daddy and I are also in a relationship and I know my Daddy still don't want me to feel dominated at all times because we are still a couple. I still like a little freedom he is giving even though I'm his sub and he does very well. He's not giving too much and too little just the right amount. I think those are the roots of my submission.

30 Days of Submission | Day 5

I don't think I can consider my past relationships in sub/dom dynamic relationship since those were not really serious and lasted just for a couple of days but I'm in a dom/sub relationship as of now with my Daddy. Even though I had gained few experiences from my past talks and even I have been already almost two years with my Dom, I still consider myself new to this because this sub/dom relationship is very complex that there will be always something to learn and to explore. My Daddy and I do not stay inside a box but we always want to explore both of ourselves. 

Like I have mentioned this is my first D/s relationship and I will just base it to the previous Doms I met. For me, Doms have really different personalities and ways how to handle themselves as well as how to handle a submissive. Yes they share few qualities, but I am sure that each dom has a unique charm that makes them different with the other doms. It is not just because someone's a dom they should only possess such qualities. Submissives also share qualities as well as differences. 

The uniqueness in my relationship with my Daddy is that I love that we are able to be open with one another and balance everything with the things we try to do. When we think we are doing too much or things are getting out of hand, we always try to step back and fix ourselves again. That's what I love the most in our relationship. We do not push things. Our relationship is at the right pace, not too slow or fast. We just enjoy things together. Also, we know that sometimes the dom/sub could hurt each other unintentionally but the thing is, my Daddy and I heal together. We fix and talk about our thoughts and concerns.  I think those are such good qualities that doms/subs should have in their relationship.

30 Days of Submission | Day 4

Big No. I never really see myself being a dominant in our BDSM relationship even the slightest. I just think that I do not have the qualities that Dominant has. In terms of in our relationship, I know that my Daddy asks  my opinions over things and let me decide for myself too. I do not consider that being switch. I guess that's still normal for Sub/Dom relationship. Doms consider the feelings of their little foremost and want what's the best for them. I really have a very submissive-softie-bratty character and I do not know if I can handle someone who share the same personality and characteristics with me. 

Being dominant is not an easy role. It requires so much patience, responsibility, understanding, compassion, consistency, and self-control. It is a responsibility that not everyone can do that is why I really admire my Daddy Dom. I really see that he puts so much effort and creativeness when it comes to our relationship. My Daddy is a very calm person, organized, and very patient especially to me. He is the perfect daddy dom for me and our personality really jives together which I love the most. I just know that the submissive is really in me and I am not planning or cannot really see myself being a switch.

30 Days of Submission | Day 3

Ever since, I was just really a follower. I am not quite sure what made me submissive but I believe that it could also be in my culture, my experience, observation in the people I have grown up and be with. Some say that the birth order can also have an effect because mostly the eldest tend to be the dominant one and the between or the youngest tend to be the submissive one.

In my case, we are taught that it should always be a guy who would be the last say or you should serve with and always follow what the elders would say. When I explored myself into the kinks that have submission I realized that I feel like I can do the same with what the sub is doing because I am like this or that. I started to compare myself and reflect on my personality, my likes and dislikes. I like to follow rules, always depending on others, and I like that someone is always guiding me. So that's why I really find the BDSM relationship interesting.

When I express my submission, I feel really satisfied when I know that I pleased my Daddy. I feel myself getting excited when I am following the rules and Daddy's order for me. I feel more free and comfortable with my own self especially I have my Daddy who is guiding, supporting, and helping me. I feel safe and confident around with my Daddy dom. 

30 Days of Submission | Day 2

Of course I submit to my Daddy. I truly submit to my Daddy because I can feel his dominance especially when we are in a role play. He might be a little less strict in some things but I can still feel his power over me. What we are doing as of now might affect my answers. As of now, we are exploring and let other guys use me. It is like cuckold but the difference is it is just thru online. So, my Daddy wants me to submit as well as to other guys. I know it may sound bad to some but it is not. We just started it a few months ago and it is not like I would submit to the guys totally. Some will just last for an hour or two but I also experienced submitting to one of the guy for three days. My Daddy considered my feelings foremost and if I did not like the guy he would not push me to submit or continue with him.

I submit to them because my Daddy wants me to and it is also my choice. I would not just submit to a person so fast without knowing them first. I want to make myself comfy with them at least. I could tell by the conversation I would have with them if I am willing to submit or not. The way they talk and the way they impose themselves will really play a factor. If I did not feel the dominance with your character as well as if I did not get comfy with the guy, the lesser chance I will submit. Also, the order of my Daddy also affects me because what if I did not like the guy and he still wants me to submit? As a submissive, I will still do because my mind is set that my Daddy ordered and I am doing this for him.

I can say that I am not all throughout a submissive person. Yes, I am submissive in my relationship and as well my relationship with my daddy because we are also boyfriends and girlfriends. It still depends on the person who I would talk with. In terms of daily life or for the people I meet, if that someone intimidates me, probably I will just be the follower. I also observed that I have a leadership character sometimes so I cannot say that I am totally submissive as well as in daily life. I am happy that I found the right man for me. 

30 Days of Submission | Day 1

Yes, my submission has a label though I really cannot say that I strive for these labels intentionally (for some). I mean when I learned about the BDSM or sub/dom relationship maybe yes I could say that I really wanted to become a submissive. Then as I explored, I discovered daddy and little as well and it is somehow related to BDSM which also has a sub/dom in the relationship. So I could say they somehow interrelated. I focused on both labels when I tried to find my Daddy. I could say I am a mix of submissive and a little girl which is both submissive. Even before I tried to enter a relationship. I know to myself that I am these two.

When I met my Daddy, yes we started off not so naughty and we both know we are dom and sub but little did I know that I will have a new label which is pet/kitty. The pet plays are different as well as the BDSM, and DDLG. They are submissive roles but they have different meter or feel. I fell in love with Daddy’s idea of me being a pet, so I consider myself as a pet too. My Daddy and I also do some plays that makes me feel like a slave. He also calls me a slave which I really find arousing.

I think having a label would really help a lot especially to classify myself and in our relationship with my Daddy. You cannot just say you are submissive because there are types of being submissive for me. If our mood wanted to be on the gentle side, probably DDLG, then if we want a little more we could use the label sir/slave. Some might say you cannot be all but that is not true. I believe that if you wanted it and trained with it, you can achieve the label you wanted. I am proud to say that I am mixed because I really wanted to explore a lot. I am really happy with what I have become right now.

30 Days of Submission

Hewwo! ~ I'm back again. This blog will be a little different than the usual blogs I do. This  task that's given to me by my Daddy. I know that he really gives me tasks that will help me to become a better submissive. I love his creativity when it comes to giving me tasks and never fails to surprise and challenge me. That's why I really put effort in every task he gives. 

This task can be done in 30 Days and you need to answer one question everyday. It's just quite simple. What I love about this task is that I am able to discover more of myself. My Daddy also reads and comments on my answers that I think that could help us to get to know better and develop our relationship.

The Questions:

1) Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your submission as Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

2) Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?

3) How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive? How do you feel when you express your submission?

4) Do you switch into a dominant role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that you maintain control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you?

5) Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?

6) What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you think it has something to do with childhood? Is it a relationship management tool as in the practice of domestic discipline? Is it a sexual thrill or something else?

7) Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it?

8.) Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?

9) Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them?

10) Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)?

11) Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?

12) Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?

13) Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your submission? Why or why not? Are there limits to this?

14) Does religion have any bearing on your decision to submit? If not, are you familiar with religious based submission and do you view it as similar to other types of submission or dissimilar?

15) Has your submission evolved over time? If so, how has it evolved for you and if not (or if you are just starting out) how might you see or imagine it evolving in the future?

16) Have you found your submission has changed with different partners/relationships? If you’re involved with partners of both sexes, does your submission relate or change based on gender or does it depend on the person?

17) What does trust mean to you in the context of submission?

18) Very often the stereotype of submission is that the submissive person loses the ability to have an opinion. While that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions, how does communication factor into your submission and how do you communicate your desires and needs?

19) How socially connected is your submission? Do you look for others to talk to about your submission for support or networking? Do you go to events or connect through another sort of social grouping either in person or online?

20) Has your submission increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate your submission due to a change in your feelings or circumstance?

21) Is there a physical position that makes you feel most submissive?

22) Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings?

23) Is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you? Was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own submissive feelings?

24) What are the emotions that most directly let you access submission? What feelings do they inspire?

25) Are there items, objects or rituals that represent or help you express submission? If not, have you ever thought of adding or being gifted one? Is there a special significance to these objects or rituals?

26) What are the qualities you seek in a dominant partner and why? Are some qualities deal-breakers as in “must” haves or “must not” have?

27) Do you have submissive desires or fantasies that you have yet to be able to explore? Do some of your desires confuse or frighten you? Do they excite you?

28) Has your submission ever let you down? Have you ever been criticized for your submission? Have you ever regretted being or feeling submissive in a moment or in a relationship? Have you ever looked back and realized you made a mistake and how did you handle your submission going forward from that.

29) Is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission? What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship with it?

30) Is your need to submit being met? If not, or if your situation changed, do you think that you could continue in your life and still be happy/content if you were never able to express your submission in the way that feels best to you again? What makes submission special to you?

The questions are really well thought out and it is something I never imagine that I will ask myself. I really pondered on these questions and answered these with all honesty. This will be a great task to give to your Sub because you'll learn more about his/her. You guys can try answering these questions too! I'll be uploading  my answers so stay tuned kitties~

(My Daddy and I do not own the questions. We give the credits to lunaKM. You can check her out and the questions by clicking here.)