Having a Break in Dom/Sub Relationship

For almost 2 years, I'm proud to say that my Dom and I were very consistent in our Dom/Sub relationship despite the hardships that hindered us. He gives me tasks, orders, playtimes, and even exploring with other guys which I am happy to do so as his Submissive. So, in short it became a big part of us and our everyday lives. 

Recently, my Daddy (which is also my bf) and I have decided to have a break in our Dom/Sub relationship. It sounds frightening right? My first reaction was sadness and confusion. I thought everything was organized, perfect, and we're both happy but he asked for a break. I've also questioned myself, maybe I'm lacking as a submissive? The reason for a break was because of his own concern. 

Thoughts keep running in my mind, like how long will this break going to last? Is there a possibility that we won't continue again in our Dom/Sub relationship? What if it affects our relationship as a bf/gf? Is it going to be the same if we're back again? At first I was worried. My Daddy assured me that our bf/gf relationship isn't involved in this. I also realised that I know our relationship will be fine even without our Dom/Sub relationship. 

During our break, we just enjoyed our days just like a normal bf and gf. It's hard at first because you're used to do the routines and not involving about Dom/Sub but the break really did well and helped for both of us. 

After days or a week I think, my Daddy and I are back again finally! I'm his official sub again and we had few changes. We promised to ourselves that we will take things slow as he always say "Step by step" and we won't pressure ourselves. 

I think everyone shouldn't be scared of having a break. It's better to have a break than you push yourselves to do things that won't make you both happy. A little break is healthy too. It's a great way to sort and discover your feelings, certain things and re-thinking of the whole situation if it's really for you or not. Don't take it as a bad thing. We just really need to be open and honest with our partners to make the relationship work and last. :)

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30 Days of Submission | Day 1

Yes, my submission has a label though I really cannot say that I strive for these labels intentionally (for some). I mean when I learned about the BDSM or sub/dom relationship maybe yes I could say that I really wanted to become a submissive. Then as I explored, I discovered daddy and little as well and it is somehow related to BDSM which also has a sub/dom in the relationship. So I could say they somehow interrelated. I focused on both labels when I tried to find my Daddy. I could say I am a mix of submissive and a little girl which is both submissive. Even before I tried to enter a relationship. I know to myself that I am these two.

When I met my Daddy, yes we started off not so naughty and we both know we are dom and sub but little did I know that I will have a new label which is pet/kitty. The pet plays are different as well as the BDSM, and DDLG. They are submissive roles but they have different meter or feel. I fell in love with Daddy’s idea of me being a pet, so I consider myself as a pet too. My Daddy and I also do some plays that makes me feel like a slave. He also calls me a slave which I really find arousing.

I think having a label would really help a lot especially to classify myself and in our relationship with my Daddy. You cannot just say you are submissive because there are types of being submissive for me. If our mood wanted to be on the gentle side, probably DDLG, then if we want a little more we could use the label sir/slave. Some might say you cannot be all but that is not true. I believe that if you wanted it and trained with it, you can achieve the label you wanted. I am proud to say that I am mixed because I really wanted to explore a lot. I am really happy with what I have become right now.

Cuckold thru LDR? Is it possible?

Hi there! Are you in a long distance relationship that is looking for something new and fun to try with your bf? Yes you're in the right place! I know LDR can be hard sometimes and you really find ways to spice things up. If this is your cup tea, I am sure you will want to give this a try but if it's not still keep reading!

If you have read my previous blogs, I am sure that you will know that my Daddy and I are in a long distance relationship and haven't met yet. We are almost 2 years together and 1 year as bf/gf and still counting. One of the struggles of the couples who is in LDR is how are we going to have fun? Sure there's a lot of ways to have fun like video calling, sext, etc. I'm not saying that these are boring but it's not bad to have a new way to have fun. My Daddy who is really creative and always has ideas also,  his naughty mind (also mine haha) led us to try this. We are always up for everything and we're vocal to what we want. We can almost talk about everything which I love the most in our relationship. 

Okay,  I know it may sound impossible but yes, you've read it right! I will share my experiences, thoughts and how my Daddy and I were able to do this though we are in a Long Distance Relationship.

 I know some of you guys are very kinky and adventurous like us. Guys and even gals have some kink on what they call 'cuckold'. Cuckold is sharing your partner to have sex/ or sexual relationship with other guys/girls (correct me if I'm wrong). Some of you guys sure are aware on what is cuckold and even into this kink. But the big question is..is it possible in LDR? Well my answer is YES. Let's flash back a little. My Daddy and I were able to try this two years ago. I know my Daddy really has a thing with cuckolds and I ended up liking it too. He would find a guy for me that he could talked then, when he likes the guy, he will give my kik account so we could have talk and also make a group for the three of us. The guy and I will have small talk and be comfy then we could start to get naughty. Sadly, I think it didn't work out much since we didn't really plan well on how we will do since it's our first time trying it. I am still able to find a stranger guy in talkwithstranger and had fun with him. I just sent screenshots of our conversations to my Daddy and he really liked it. We didn't have time to try it again because we developed feelings for each other and really enjoyed our time getting to known as bf/gf.

Back to the present! We have decided to give it a try again but this time we will choose the guys much better and will set rules for them to follow. This could really depend on couple how would you want it but here are some for my Daddy and I:

1. No sending of face pictures.

2. No video calling.

3. Always tell Daddy if we are going to have playtime beforehand. 

4. If I feel uncomfy, do not do it. 

5. No going behind my daddy's back 

6. Ask permission before talking with guys. 

 

Those are only a few, it would really depend on you guys and once you are in the situation you will know what the rules to set. We would find potential guys and even post on ddlgfriends then, once we my Daddy talked with them. I would have a private chat with them and tell Daddy if I am ready to have a group chat including him. My Daddy does not join and just reads and rarely talks if needed. I would find it off if the guy started to get naughty with my Daddy too (haha). He would use me after sometimes once I'm done with getting naughty with a guy which I find it hotter cause I'm still extra sensitive from the previous play. 

I really enjoyed doing this and I'm sure my Daddy as well. Just also a warning. We won't be able to do this without trust to each other. He always got my back and protects me when I would find situations uncomfy. If you guys have issues, I think it will be great to settle with that first because it's not really easy to try this. 

You may be wondering, why don't you guys just get a permanent guy for you? No we are not really interested in having a polygamous relationship. We just want something that doesn't require deep relationship and only casual. We even wanted just one time and really just having fun with me. We don't want more than that. Poly relationships are way different and complicated than doing cuckolds which could be one time only. It is also hard to find a guy who will suite us, because we both need to agree if we want the guy to play with me or not. If Daddy disagreed, he will be dismissed. 

Disclaimer, we do not do it always and find guys for me because it is really taking our time together. We also take pauses and plan to give it a try again maybe soon. It will really depends on you guys, how often will you want it. 

So yes that's how we do it! If you guys have questions or clarifications. You can leave a comment down below and I will be willing to answer it! See you in my next post! 

How did I become a little?

Now that I am in this age, I sometimes wonder how did it all start? Why did I end up liking this kind of relationship? How did I discover or develop my kinks? And how did I become a little? Now, I will give you a little flashblack..

I was in 6th Grade when I started to read in an e-book site called Wattpad. I became obsessive in reading romance, teen fictions, adventure, science fiction name it. Yep, my hopeless romantic self haha. So yeah here comes the 8th Grade. I was like.. the stories are too boring for me now, every plot now is cliché. 

Then, l discovered a R-18 Romance story oopss.. I will read whatever I want. No one can stop me haha. So basically, wattpad educated me. The terms that I am not familiar, I would search it up and ta-da! I have already watched porn but reading makes it safer! I was in 8th Grade when I experienced my first heart break then the stories I mostly read are men that are so mature, intimidating, dominant and such and that is when I promised myself that I won't like a boy anymore. I will find a man for me.

I just continued reading and that when I encountered terminologies such as Daddy, Little, Dominant, Age play, Pet Play, Submissive, Age-gaps, and BDSM. It all came to a point where I am just all reading about it and dreaming I will get a man and experience that too. I always find myself getting horny and would end up masturbating >//<. That is why I only got attracted to guys older than me. 

So I'm done with curiosity stage haha now after learning and having knowledge about it. What is the next step usually people do? I heard your answers! Yes we want to gain experience or try it ourselves because reading is not enough. I want more! I need more! 

At the age of 16-17 years old, My parents are strict and it is really impossible to find a guy that will be interested in me. No older guy will like a teenage girl like me. So I just explore in the Internet. There was a time here in our country were chatting online to strangers became so popular. I visited some sites and start chatting guys. 

It was no sexual at first but there was a guy who really persuaded me to take sexual pictures. I was so scared as it was my first time and I never take pictures of my private parts! I don't know what came into my mind but I obeyed him. I guess he was so experienced and so good at words and I felt the feeling I'm finding. Like it woke up my inner desires. 

I met a lot of guys and when I say a lot. It is really A LOT haha. As I meet each guy, the more I am discovering what are my preferences in finding my Daddy/Dom. There are guys who just wants to become sexual, there are guys who are so boring, weird, aggressive and more. I had a couple of Daddies but it really did not lasted for a long a time. Usually just a week or two and even just couple of days.

 I am really particular in finding my right Daddy. I did some pictures, videos also followed rules depending on the guy I met but no one really lasted because I would stop talking to them. I am now happy that I finally met my right Daddy and man for me. Hmm maybe I'll discuss more about that in different post :P

I really considered myself as a certified little! I love being little because I feel more comfortable and confident. I love being cared and getting attention and I also get to showcase my inner childish self haha. If you think you are interested in becoming a little, that is fine. There is nothing wrong with it. Do not be afraid to admit and be true to yourself. 

Soo that is the answer on "How did I become a litte?" I hope you had fun reading it and See you on next post!